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The Book

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The Letters for Healing is now available as an e-book (including the songs) at vook.com, Apple iBookstore, Amazon, Kindle store and Barnes & Noble store.

ISBN:  9781629211916


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"Von Kopfman's book may have been borne of the grief from the loss of his son, but it has become a symbol of healing and the start of a community.  Our letters are personal and allow us the freedom to express our emotions honestly." 

- Namastè, Greg Louganis

Letters for Healing:
The Therapeutic Power of Writing to a Lost Loved One

These Books are very intimate collections of letters from those left behind, to lost their loved ones. Including them in these books insures they will never be forgotten. The Letters Project Books are being published by Kansas City Star Books and will include the following titles: Letters for Healing: The Therapeutic Power of Writing to a Lost Loved One (with a by Olympic Gold Medalist Greg Louganis),

book-coverLetters for Healing: Letters To Those Lost In Service (letters to those in the armed forces, police, and fire who lost their lives in the line of duty), and Letters for Healing: Letters To Lost Pets. All of the Letters for Healing books are based on research in the healing power of hand-writing letters, and includes short biographies of those being written to, a place for the reader to write their own letter, and a CD of songs based upon the letters. These books will be available wherever books are sold.

Preface

At 7:40 a.m. on August 11, 2011 my son, Jacob Von Kopfman, bought two slices of breakfast pizza, two bottles of Gatorade and a can of Skoal; by 9:30 a.m., he was gone. This was the beginning of my worst nightmare and my worst fear, come true.

In our small community of 3,000, Jacob had lost five friends in the 23 months prior to his death. In fact, two of those friends had died just the month before. I had attended funerals and seen the hurt and blank expressions. I sympathized and hurt for the parents’ loss, but I was always grateful it was not one of my children. As a parent, you think that you can imagine what the pain of losing a child must feel like. You cannot.

The moment that Jacob died, I could not think. I didn’t know what to do, who to call, or where to turn. I was vulnerable, scared and scarred in ways that I had never imagined I could experience.

I received a lot of useless and often frustrating advice from people who meant well, but really just had no idea what to say. I needed help and I realized that I wasn’t alone in struggling to navigate through the loss of a child. I decided that in order to survive the loss of Jacob, I had to find a way to make something positive out of the pain and confusion. I needed to try to find a way to help people trying to survive the tragedy of losing a loved one.

I met with 40 families who had lost a child and got their input. I researched to find information, resources and tools that could guide a person dealing with the loss of a child. Finally, I interviewed and gathered information from three well-respected psychologists. Through the exploration, www.forthesurvivors.org was born.

At the same time, I realized I was in need of healing.  My surviving son and Jacob’s identical twin brother, Jordan, and I began meeting with Dr. Jon Farrell-Higgins separately after Jacob’s death. Jordan was angry that he wasn’t able to tell his brother goodbye. Dr. Farrell-Higgins suggested that Jordan write a letter to Jacob telling him everything that was left unsaid.

Jordan found writing the letter beneficial; so I wrote a letter as well. It was so helpful that I then suggested to my daughter, my parents, and the parents in our community that had recently lost children that they write letters as well. Everyone found some comfort and healing through the process.

As a songwriter, I found the words of the letters to be so powerful that I turned the letters written by my family members into songs. I then offered to do the same for the other families. The letters and the music have helped my healing process by helping others on their own journey toward healing.

Before I lost Jacob, I had only known a handful of people in my life that had lost a child. Now I know many. Too many... I realized that it would be selfish to limit what had become known as The Letters Project among our small group to just that group. I realized that the need is great and the resources are few, which led to the book you are holding now.

It is my hope that through the www.forthesurvivors.org website and this book that you will feel a little less alone, find the resources you need, and lighten your load. I dedicate this book to all the children lost and to all of you, the survivors.

In Memory of:

Jacob Kopfman  |  August 11, 2011

Von Kopfman